Chandler and Joey, F.R.I.E.N.D.S, 90s. It’s fictional, guys, just like the bro code that pop culture has so conveniently convinced us about. I don’t mean that the code is unreal, but the meaning of the bro code that is represented surely is. The bro code, so to speak, is what exists between the closest friends. I’m going to be blunt, I couldn’t be wrong about a third guy, and the way he behaves in the relationships of his life, and I’m not going to adhere to any sibling code to keep him “safe,” by that makes sense. This bro code, like a lot of other things, grows and evolves in your social circles. My sibling code with my closest friends has evolved from what it meant when we were in school. Over the past decade or so, the things we think of as taking care of someone have undergone a small change.
Let’s look at the most obvious expression of what essentially defines the bro code – someone is cheating on their partner – and being a “brother” means knowing that and keeping your secret safe. Is this still happening? May be. But I’d like to believe that for most of the past decade, the meaning of confiding in a friend, or what constitutes a friendship, has changed dramatically. If a friend of mine was going through something like this, I would like to talk to him and help him. The bro code has evolved to be there for your friend and help them find a way, whether it’s finding a way to heal in the relationship or finding a way to end it if they don’t. not produced. “Arrey, I’m not going to denigrate you” is not part of my brother code, personally, and I will stay out of it. Another important aspect of this supposed bro code is the way men talk about women. On social media and in the public eye, the way men talk about women has certainly changed. Even in private spaces to a certain extent, but the percentage of regression in conversations between men about women exists. This idea of ”locker room conversation” is disgusting. Many men, deep down, know this to be wrong and don’t even want to commit to it.
There is nothing against appreciating a woman’s beauty, but total respect is warranted. Bro code has also been influenced by awakened culture, but it has its own attributes because awakened culture, to a large extent, is performative. We’re ready to pull tweets from years ago and cancel people who might have said something in the past based on the reality they were living in at the time, but we’ll let the whole thing go. main shit. To be fair, all the conversation in this boy’s locker room is a distraction from the darker things going on. That in itself is reason enough to wonder if things are really moving at the heart or if it is just the facade. The bro code language can also be problematic. Using phrases like “brothers before bitches” when what they’re literally trying to say is putting your friends before your girlfriend. At school things like that were said. Personally, when I’m around people where you’re expected to stick to a brother code just because everyone talks about women in a certain way, I’m not at the point. easy. I’m someone who is very much in touch with my feminine side, and it has always made me uncomfortable with my male friends when the conversation takes a degrading turn.
The bro code is actually a very small symptom of a much larger problem of patriarchy and misogyny. It comes from a world of male ego and male domination and “Oh we men have to stick together and dominate the women”. This is how the world has worked for centuries. Less than a month ago, I was approached with an offer by someone who had a #MeToo charge against him and I flatly declined. I discussed it with my friends (my brothers), and they supported my decision because I don’t want to be someone who empowers someone who has such serious allegations against them. These are the types of brothers that I surrounded myself with. If I can speak for myself and my friends, the bro code has definitely moved on. If I had to give five bro code commandments, it would be this one – to make sure your brothers take care of their health, to make sure your brothers are true to their hearts, your brothers are good to their family , that your brothers do not harm the environment and that they are kind to animals. They are basically bigger bro code rules that have evolved over time, for the long term, and certainly more useful than a short term “Yaar, meri biwi ko mat batana”.
Arjun Mathur is an actor who has appeared in movies and web series like Luck by Chance, Made in Heaven
and Brij Mohan Amar Rahe. He constantly uses his platform to denounce social injustices.
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